After one date, though, I would beat myself up mentally for breaking my rule, and I’d avoid making second dates.
Ours was a fervent love match, made more fervent by the fact that we had to wait in secret for two years until Ben earned enough at his profession to support a family.
This site notes that “while the church isn’t particularly keen on Catholics marrying non-Christians, we can see that it often permits it.” Further comment observes that if it’s not clear the Catholic party will undertake the required promises the bishop will decline permission for a church wedding.
But as I fell in love with her, she fell in love with me—and with my Judaism as well.
Unlike me, she hadn’t dreamed of meeting someone Jewish and having a Jewish wedding.
To have a church wedding, the Catholic party must vow to avoid dangers that might lead him or her to leave the Catholic faith and, canon law continues, “makes a sincere promise to do all in his or her power to have all the children baptized and brought up in the Catholic Church.” The non-Christian party to marriage is informed of these commitments “at an appropriate time.” Before canon law reforms, the pledge about raising children was also required from the non-Christian party, and usually in writing.
Note that those same requirements hold when a Catholic marries a baptized Christian from a different denomination where there’s no “impediment.” The impediment, however, applies with marriages to those who consider themselves Christians but are not baptized (e.g.
This information was pounded in from all directions, from rabbis, from my parents, my grandparents, Hebrew High School, Camp Ramah.
I felt the pressure: The future of my people was at stake! The school was arty, musical, nerdy, and had a substantial Jewish population. Even though I no longer felt outside the norm, I still had trouble getting dates … Every Jewish woman I asked out on a date rejected me.
I was only able to relax around non-Jewish women, because I didn’t feel the same pressure; that’s how I met, and fell in love with, my wife.
It was the day I’d long hoped for, marrying a nice Jewish girl. In fact, by the time we’d started dating, I’d given up on Jewish women, and my dream of a perfect Jewish wedding, altogether. The intense pressure I felt to date and marry within the tribe damaged my perception of Jewish women and my ability to be myself around them.
I am a pain avoider as you have described in one article. This tells me all I need to know: a) He’s just not that into you. It is possible that he’ll come around, but it’s exceedingly unlikely. 75% of marriages that begin under the age of 25 end up in divorce. Your more interesting question, though, is about Jewish families. The question, ultimately, is whether he’s the kind of nice Jewish boy who will put his parents needs above his own?
You’re a 22-year-old girl who is casually dating a 27-year-old guy who is not serious enough about you to take his JDate profile down.