But for some reason, every time this guy starts talking about what he’s going to offer, his eyes become shifty and he refuses to make eye contact with you. Would you feel like you’re making the right decision?Trust is the number one thing that needs to exist for any successful relationship — friendship, friends with benefits, business, dating, whatever.Researchers Kellerman, Lewis, and Laird (1989) set out to explore the effects of mutual eye contact on participants' feelings of romantic love.In two experiments, participants were randomly paired into opposite sex couples and given the instructions to either gaze at their partner's hands, eyes, or count the number of eye blinks for two minutes.The happy side of eye contact flirting Let’s face it, eye contact flirting is harmless.You could exchange a glance on the street or while having coffee at a restaurant.Often described as sparks, kismet or "love at first sight," the long distance eye flirt is seen in movies.Flirting with your eyes across a distance can occur repeatedly over a long period or just for one poignant moment.
Peeking is short, brief glances that are more demure than the full on extended gaze. Peeking eye contact is a good warm up for other more intense eye flirting. Long distance eye flirting occurs between two people who may not know one another but feel an attraction.Full body gazes begin with an extended gaze, are followed up by a longer look over the mouth, down the body and back up to the eyes.This type of eye contact is brazen and highly sensual.Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor Over the years, I have discussed several ways to increase attraction, passion, and loving feelings with a potential date, lover, or partner.Some of those methods include: In addition to those methods, I have also explored how eye contact, combined with other body language, can help get the attention of a possible date or mate (see here).When most guys approach a woman for the very first time, they go there thinking about what to say instead of just being in the moment. A powerful, strong man will not wander with his eyes. He will directly look at a woman in her eyes, say what he has to say and continue to hold her gaze as she answers, listening not only with his ears to know what to say next, but listening with his eyes to show he is a strong, powerful, bold, confident man. You go to a car dealership and talk to a car dealer, but his eyes are all over the place, wandering. You may not be consciously thinking about this, but subconsciously you’re going to feel very uncomfortable with him.When you’re thinking about what to say, immediately you get confused and nervous. When a guy’s eyes wander, it makes her feel nervous. Now imagine sitting down across from somebody you’re about to cut a major business deal with. I’m going to ask you a question, and you’re going to give me an honest answer. Do you also realize the more powerful your eye contact is, the more quickly you’ll turn her on? They want to feel secure and safe, and they want to feel they’re in the presence of a confident, bold man. Are you aware the eyes are the way to turn a woman on?As long as it’s mutual, it’s a fun and flirty experience that can bring a smile at the end of the day.[Read: Why some guys stare even when the girl isn’t interested] Who doesn’t love a few stolen glances now and then, even if you don’t intend to date that person?