I applaud your honesty, but why are you telling me this?Frank Trejo is a longtime journalist and writer, having reported on topics ranging from immigration to crime news and features.I conducted an informal (and utterly unscientific) poll on the Dr.Nerd Love Facebook Page, trying to get a handle on what guys mean. So let’s take a look at what men say is intimidating… Men can find beauty intimidating; the more attractive the woman, the more advantages society gives her."To frighten" or "make fearful" is at the root of the verb intimidate.An animal might intimidate a smaller animal by bearing its teeth, and a person can intimidate another by threatening to do something harmful.Why, yes, you now have my attention because I’m now curious about your psyche.
And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy. But “intimidating” is almost uselessly vague, especially if they keeps coming up; it covers a multitude of meanings to the point that it means everything and nothing at once.
Cow implies bringing out an abject state of timorousness and often demoralization: a dog that was cowed by abuse.
You can see "timid" in the middle of intimidate, and to be timid is to be frightened or to pull back from something.
I can’t fix the mean girl who blows you off at the bar or the not-so-mean girl you just said has “resting bitch face (RBF).” (Also, I’m pretty sure my brain-on-fire-and-therefore-deep-in-thought face does not mean I’m a bitch, so please stop using “RBF”).
That is, unless you want women to just start calling you a resting assh*le (“RA” for short).
She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating.
She’s well educated, with a rapier wit and a willingness to use it. And yet, Friday still remains the most lonely night of the week when she sees all of the happy, laughing couples making plans, having romantic dinners and enjoying the sex while she’s at home with Fringe on the DVR and a bottle of Malbec breathing in the kitchen. Well, whenever she’s interested in a guy – a guy who’s worth her time, because what’s the point of having standards if she’s not going to stick to ‘em?
I’m talking about the woman that you dream of, finally find and chase down, but then are too afraid to date.
I’m talking about this bizarre open conversation that happens at one of two points in a relationship: You somehow turn “you’re intimidating” into an opening line.
When you intimidate, you frighten or make someone afraid.
A pet rat might intimidate your sister's friends, keeping them out of your fort.