If you’re dealing with a boss who is known for his bullying, you need to get into “court reporter mode” and stealthily get your documentation on.One of the things that bully bosses count on is the lack of a quality paper trail from the people who they bully.Or worse, the bully gossips about you, tells lies to your coworkers, and even sabotages your work.If you dread going to work, you may have a bully coworker or boss. Van Have you ever been in a relationship with an emotional bully? I once dated a girl who would fairly regularly yell or cry or call names almost every time I disagreed with her, even over silly non-issues. Or they push others around in a vain attempt at feeling better about themselves by comparison.
In order to deal with them effectively, you’re going to need some help, but I’ll get to that later. Unlike with bully coworkers, standing up for yourself might not always play out too well for you.Now add to that picture this: Cousins angrily jabbing a finger into Furillo’s face, shouting in a profane and threatening manner, because of a column The Bee published last weekend.Cousins then refused to talk to any reporters in the post-game interview while Furillo was in the room.If you answer yes to these questions, chances are good that you’re one of 54 million Americans who have been attacked by a bully at work.You know you’re working with a bully when the bully picks out your mistakes and constantly brings them up.If your employer won’t help you, and a recent study says they often won’t, these are the actions to take to defeat the bully.The Zogby study, in conjunction with the Workplace Bullying and Trauma Institute (WBTI), found in 2010 that: The bully will not go away; if you make yourself an easy target, you will only encourage the bully. Set Limits on What You Will Tolerate From a Bully Most importantly, once you have set the limit in your mind, exercise your right to tell the bully to stop the behavior.Instead, we justify and excuse in ourselves the very same behavior we would never tolerate from others.That being the all-too-frequent case, the following characteristics should provide insight into what may have largely been ignored until now.Dealing with a bully boss isn’t easy, and if you want the bullying to stop, you’re going to have to put in some work to document a consistent pattern of bullying behavior.Reporting a random incident where the bully boss screamed at you for no reason isn’t going to cut it.