When yet another romantic relationship came “burning down in a spectacular fashion,” Amy Webb sought the advice of her friends and family, including her grandmother. True love will find you when you least expect it,’” Webb recalls in her TED Talk.
This advice struck Webb, who works with data for a living, as preposterous.
A few weeks ago, my phone lit up with the familiar flash of an incoming text. I have a date,” came the message from a friend who was just in the beginning stages of getting over a bad breakup.
Attached was a screenshot of a cute, 30-something woman’s Bumble profile: A few smiling photos, both solo and with pals, and those key, short but cryptic lines of self-description.
“I like the idea of online dating because it’s predicated on algorithms,” she says.
“I can take my grandmother’s advice and sort of ‘least expect’ my way into maybe bumping into the one [of them] — or I can try online dating,” she says.
Somehow, you can’t help but feel a little left out. Growing up, you always took for granted you’d be married by now. Some of your less-coordinated friends have managed to do it. So you got a house, a car, a degree, a job, did some traveling, and built yourself into somebody rather enviable. Today, singles all over the world are kissing fate goodbye and looking for love online. Online dating has been around as long as the Web made it possible for two people to communicate.
But one thing today’s singles are finding out is that there is one thing in life you can’t work for, be good enough for, or accomplish through any persistence of your own. Now, millions log on everyday to search through profiles and photos of total strangers, hoping to find that special someone.
When summer begins, we are suddenly in the thick of wedding season. In the midst of all this wedded bliss, you’re just trying to avoid your newly engaged friend and sparing yourself a half-hour conversation about the difference between egg white and winter white.
It’s time for joy, flowers, caterers, something borrowed, and something blue. Maybe it was getting that last wedding invitation of a college friend or browsing through Bed, Bath & Beyond with a gift registry full of expensive silverware.
As Aziz Ansari says in one of his Netflix stand-up specials, couples’ origin stories are now as complex as searching “Jewish” and your Zip code on At the same time, interesting origin stories are having a moment everywhere else.
It’s not enough for a restaurant to have primo prime rib; it’s got to have a killer backstory that explains the struggles its owners faced and the exact farms from which they sourced their products.
I took a random, informal survey of several graduate school students, encouraging them to share their thoughts on dating online.
First came the cynics: “Personally, I would not use it.
Watch Amy talk about her book on Good Morning America, which aired Jan. Is your online profile keeping you from attracting the right mate?
Amy Webb, the author of “Data, A Love Story: How I Gamed Online Dating to Meet My Match,” realized that her online profile was turning off potential cyber-suitors and made it her mission to get to the bottom of it…