According to wedding RSVP etiquette, the respond by date on your wedding response cards should be 2-4 weeks before the wedding date.
You will want to check with your wedding venue and caterer for their requirements as well.
Be sure to order extra invitations to account for the extras being sent, and remember to keep a close watch on your guest count.
You should have a predetermined number of guests you will not exceed.
This helps ensure that people don't take it further by purchasing a Stamp to send you a message that's not welcomed.
Feeling safe is much more important than someone's opinion of you.
In December, my partner Sonja and I held a Christmas party at our London home.
If you’re planning on turning declines into an opportunity for someone else to join the fun, send your wedding invitations 4 weeks in advance.
When you receive a decline (within 1-2 weeks of sending the initial batch of invites), send an invitation to someone on your B or C Lists, making sure those guests receive the invite at least one week before the RSVP date.
One of these had, infuriatingly, asked who else would be at the party before confirming his decision.
It made me feel I was expected to sell the party to him, if I were to be graced with his presence.
Here are a few other things to consider when choosing a reply date.
B-List Strategy It sounds harsh but we all know when it comes to creating a guest list, it’s only natural to have an A List, a B List and maybe even a C List.
When communicating, we suggest that you keep all transcripts of correspondence - they may come in handy if you need help resolving any issues down the track.
If you find that a particular member is breaking RSVP’s member guidelines, please email Customer Service and we can follow up your report and take appropriate action if necessary.