Rather than pay off his credit cards each month, he pays the minimum. This is a regular occurrence because he never seems to have enough money to pay his bills.4. He blames other people, the high unemployment rate or other circumstances beyond his control for his lack of employment.
Be they male or female, these people are out there, and our dearest hope is to help you spot the warning signs before it's too late and a minor mishap turns into a major mistake. One night, he doesn't sleep over and seems a little too eager to cart his personal items home.
Before you decide that he's the right guy to marry, you need to take a serious look at how he views financial goals, choices and commitments.
Since the number one cause of disagreements in marriages is financial, it's critical to observe if the guy you want to marry exhibits any of these 12 warning signs:1. In fact, you disagree about almost all financial goals, choices, and commitments.2.
Or they play "rescuer" and take up with women who are little, fragile dolls who need to be 'taken care of' and they say things like "She needs me, she's so fragile. The sad thing is, that the men/women who CAN change, do it on their own. They take time off from relationships, and work on their relationship with themselves.
The can demonstrate REAL work and real change, rather than platitudes.
Too many women are misled by the romantic myth that men are "diamonds in the rough" and we are supposed to "help" them become better men, often by sacrificing our own needs.
We are socialized to believe that if we help them, take care of them, give up our own needs for theirs, they will "take care" of us. Of course, men are just as vulnerable- they often marry women they barely know, feeling that they have to be "mature" and "grown up" and then end up miserable because they're stuck with someone they have nothing in common with.
You've always thought of yourself as someone who likes sex, with a perfectly healthy libido and a good dose of curiosity and willingness to try new things.
But then you meet this apparent sex maniac, and you start feeling broken.
Stop, think, and ask yourself: Are you dating a jerk? You allow this person to sleep over every night, almost pretending to yourself you're already living together. Or maybe that wedding she excitedly invited you to as a date suddenly ceases to exist.
This is the one who falls in love with you immediately ("immediately" being somewhere in the range of two to four weeks). Just a few days and abrupt emails later, all modes of communication are down, and a happenstance meeting on the street leaves you with nothing but a cold shoulder.