What to say to a dating scammer

A new report by the National Fraud Intelligence Bureau has found that last year, singles were conned out of £39 million by fraudsters they’d met on dating sites and apps.

First, you won't give it to him and second, to call me so you have the support I know you would need to break contact with him. This was his way of making her feel safe enough to go through with it, even though it wasn't true. A piece of her didn't want to believe he was scamming her. Because he had captured her heart and she really wanted to help him. Let me assure you these women would have said the same thing. Other women have not been so lucky and have lost thousands of their hard earned dollars to men they thought loved them.One of the most common techniques is to build up trust with the person by messaging for weeks or even months before suddenly having an emergency - the fake person being mugged but their daughter needing urgent surgery, for example - and asking for money.But then they suddenly need money for rent too, then food, then medical fees, and it can quickly escalate.Recently, I started working with a private client who was emotionally involved with a scammer. He was attentive, offered up beautiful poetry and had found a way to identify with her deepest pain.Yet when I shared why it sounded like she was becoming attached to someone who was less than honest, she was shocked and couldn't believe this nice man she spoke with on a daily basis was about to take advantage of her.Alternatively they may prey on your sympathies, telling you a family member or someone else they are responsible for is ill and they need money for medical treatment.Once you send them money, the fraudsters will keep coming back and invent new reasons to send them more.Selfies of women with low-cut vest tops were most commonly used, with female fraudsters describing themselves as a student, with no strong political leanings.She is described as 5ft 6in, never married, and has a degree-level education.The most common fake male profile, meanwhile, has light brown hair and is in his forties.Forty-eight was the most common age found across the profiles.

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